As a girl I was always a sucker for a good romantic comedy. I'd get butterflies at a happy ending that usually involved some sort of grand gesture or elaborate wedding; the guy getting the girl and riding off into the sunset. And while I can't say my movie watching has set me up for success in my personal life, seeing as we live in a digital age - instead of hoping one day I'll get swept right off my feet I'm only hoping someone will simply swipe right.
However, the digital age has not dwindled my love for love and I still do love a good wedding. Weddings can be over the top and extravagant but they also have the ability to be an amazing and intimate day that reflects the couple while bringing together their two worlds to celebrate finding one another.
Between the engagement and the I Do's there are so many things that go on to make your dream wedding a reality and, without sugar coating it, there are some highs, lows, frustrations, compromises, tears, more tears and potentially the question of should we just a elope? YOU'RE NOT ALONE. The honeymoon engagement phase often peters out when you realize that you have a year (or often times less) to plan a wedding. This is where the not-so-fun parts come in: How many people are we inviting? What's our budget? Can we afford this dream wedding I've been planning in my head for the past 20 years? Why don't you care about the flowers we're ordering? The list goes on...
When you're starting to plan any event there are the basics you need to check off. I've used this list from baby showers, work parties and weddings, and it helps define and outline what can feel like an overwhelming task:
- Budget: Yup. Start with the hardest first. Figure out your top end and work backwards. Check off the big ticket items first and see how much you can afford to add to your day.
- Venue: Your wedding shouldn't be a rogue version of who you are as a couple - make it an EXTENSION of who you are. It will feel more natural to yourself and your guests! For example: love wine? Wineries make for amazing venues. Love the beach? All inclusive might be the way to go.
- Theme/Decor: This goes along with the venue, but you really shouldn't need to build your vision at whichever venue you choose - you should just add to it. You're not going to add hay bales to the country club, if you know what I mean.
- Network! This one is HUGE. Every couple who's ever had their own wedding (and even their guests!) are more than happy to share what they loved and hated about their day and what they would do differently. If you remember a wedding where the DJ was awesome and ended the night with Dirty Dancing, find out who that guy is and hire him. Photos so amazing that you went through the entire Facebook album? Find out a name! The wedding business is all about referrals - if one has resignated with you be sure to utilize your network! Social media has also become a tool to reach out to others in your community - there are so many groups to join to ask for advice and tips.
- Ask for Help! Seriously, ask for help. Organizing the logistics of a wedding is not a small task regardless of the number of people. There are so many moving parts that need to be coordinated: schedules, vendors, last minute details - all of which you might not want to burden your family with. Ten years from now you may not remember the cost of a coordinator - or you may cringe at the memory of your dad and father-in-law dashing dinner midway to hit up a 7-11 and stock up on Coca Cola because the caterer misjudged the demand. Sometimes a little cost goes a long way.
I've had the opportunity of being a day-of-coordinator for some amazing weddings. So, what is a day of coordinator? To put it simply, a day-of-coordinator takes away any stresses leading up to and the day of your wedding. I work with couples to provide a detailed timeline of your day, act as liaison for the venue and point of contact for all vendors, do the complete set up and take down of decor and ensure your vision of hard work and planning becomes a reality! By having a day of coordinator it allows your friends and family a stress-free day to enjoy you and your wedding, without the interruptions of last minute questions or details. The reality is that even with months of planning there are always day of changes that can be inevitable; leave those last minute decisions and trouble shooting to your coordinator! Ultimately it is my goal at every wedding to make sure that your day is as perfect as it can be. The unplanned will happen but the one thing you can plan for is to have someone there to take care of those details.
With wedding season fast approaching it's time to wrap up the details and plan for the execution! I've worked with numerous vendors and venues in Greater Vancouver Area, and would love to sit down with you and discuss your ideas for your day.
Read some testimonials with past couples I've worked with here.
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I look forward to hearing from you, I'll leave you with one of my favourite quotes:
“When you realize you want to spend the rest of your life with somebody, you want the rest of your life to start as soon as possible.”
– When Harry Met Sally